First off, I’d love to give a shoutout to all the enneagram 9’s out there reading this post. Second off, I’d love to tell you how much I relate with you in the work that we do in caring for people. Technically speaking, I am a 9w8, but most often than not I am a pretty high 9 and tend to carry the weight of what other people are dealing with in their lives.
Throughout these last 11 months of the COVID-19 pandemic, in which we’ve all had to pivot and do ministry differently in some respect, it’s no secret that people are dealing with a lot. When I say a lot, it tends to be pretty heavy stuff people are dealing with. The amount of times I’ve heard people say, “We’re broken…” “This has been so hard on our family…” “Could you pray for us… we’re dealing with…” The list could go on-and-on. As I said before, people are dealing with heavy stuff.
In conversations with families throughout the last several months, sitting and just hearing people talk about what they’ve been going through personally or as a family, I walk away from every conversation, every meeting… and just feel… heavy. I feel the weight of what people are caring. As a Pastor that cares for people, I’m sure you feel that even if you’re not an enneagram 9, but as an enneagram 9, I feel as if I’m sometimes hit harder by some of those conversations.
Personally even, you may feel worn down, beat up, exhausted, emotionally uninvested, etc… after what these last 11 months have dealt us, but keep in mind why you do what you do. You do what you do because you care for people. The conversations where someone pours out their heart to you, the coffee meetings where someone tells you what their son or daughter are dealing with, the meetings that leave you feeling heavy… they all matter. Keep you mind on that, and keep doing the work of caring for people where they are.